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Intimacy Requires Vulnerability
She is driving; he is sitting next to her. Suddenly, he blurts out, “My God! Will you get off that guy’s ass!” Her response to being yelled at might be to react defensively and say something along the...
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No Mothers Out There
No Mothers The search for Mother has ended. The story of Abandonment is over. The too-good-mother has vaporized into the idea that she was. No mothers are forthwith. No mothers on order. No mothers in...
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The Dance of Our Parts in Relationships – PART 2 Bonding Patterns
To understand how we interact with our spouse or partner, we need to know about our inner children and about bonding patterns. BONDING PATTERNS Bonding patterns are basic units of interaction between...
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How do I interpret my dreams?
Dreams are one way of our subconscious mind to communicate with us. They are full of symbols. “Our dreams provide us with eight hours of free psychotherapy. Why wouldn’t we listen to them?” (Darryl...
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“I will not find you wrong”
When we know and trust that we will not be found wrong, our protective walls come down and our masks come off.
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Taking Care of Our Vulnerable Feelings and Needs
Easter is a great opportunity to get in touch with our Inner Child and her or his needs. Our Inner Child is that vulnerable younger part in us which carries our playfulness, our imagination and...
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Making Mistakes
What keeps us stuck in a feeling of “unworthiness”, of “being a failure”, is not the mistake we have made but the lack of self-forgiveness and self-compassion. The feeling of “not being good enough”...
View ArticleA Sacred and Safe Space for Workshops
What does it mean to provide a sacred space for a workshop and why is that of importance?
View ArticleA Missing Piece in Couples Therapy
Within each of us is a family of sub-personalities, which in Internal Family Systems Therapy are called “parts”. How does working with our protective parts and our wounded younger child parts, help us...
View ArticleWhy Do I Feel Stuck?
Helen got the opportunity to do a creative video project. She was excited. Yet, instead of starting to work on it, she cleaned up the entire house first. Then she started cooking a meal. Then she...
View ArticleYou Are My Valued Tor-Mentor
Our partner can be an invaluable “Tor-Mentor”, a person who mentors us by tormenting us. Inevitably, our partner will act like an early caretaker who hurt us, and we will have a strong emotional...
View ArticleWhich Version of You Shows Up in a Conflict With Your Partner?
Terry Real's concept of the Wise Adult versus the Adaptive Child offers a helpful framework for understanding why we do not always show up fully resourced and able to have productive discussions in a...
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